|Image by Salvatore Vuono|
Where my parents got it wrong can be illustrated from a vignette from childhood. We're walking along Southend seafront as a family and approach the Golden Mile, the liveliest part of the prom. As we're passing one of the kiosks, one of our little voices cries out 'Can we have an ice cream?' To which the reply is 'No, don't ask don't get'. I adhered to this philosophy for years. Who knows what I might have 'got' if I'd ignored these questionable words of wisdom and been cheeky with my requests a little more often. Surely its antonym in the proverb stakes, 'No harm in asking' is what we should be teaching our children. And they also need to know that if someone makes a request for something from them, they've always got the right to say no.