Wednesday, 19 February 2014

Just Finished Reading: The Four Agreements

Holy Moses this is good! You may remember on New Years Eve that I said that I would be borrowing this book from Dartmoor Prison via the Devon Library's Service.  Well obviously I probably couldn't have collected it myself even if I do go quite near the gates of the prison quite frequently on my work related jaunts over the moor to Tavistock.

I've read and re-read The Four Agreements: Practical Guide to Personal Freedom, delved into it for a bit of wisdom when I needed it and will be breaking my 2014 spending rules to acquire my own copy.  It's that worth it!

And here are the four agreeements lifted from the inside cover of the book.  Like mindfulness practice, it's simple stuff on paper.  If you're anything like me, you'll look it over and think 'Hey, this is really simple'.  But like mindfulness, and yes I think I can see parallels with the two approaches, this stuff will take a lifetime to master.

1. Be Impeccable with your Word: Speak with integrity. Say only what you mean. Avoid using the Word to speak against yourself or to gossip about others. Use the power of your Word in the direction of truth and love.
2. Don’t Take Anything Personally
Nothing others do is because of you. What others say and do is a projection of their own reality, their own dream. When you are immune to the opinions and actions of others, you won’t be the victim of needless suffering.

3. Don’t Make Assumptions
Find the courage to ask questions and to express what you really want. Communicate with others as clearly as you can to avoid misunderstandings, sadness and drama. With just this one agreement, you can completely transform your life.
4. Always Do Your Best
Your best is going to change from moment to moment; it will be different when you are healthy as opposed to sick. Under any circumstance, simply do your best, and you will avoid self-judgment, self-abuse, and regret.


  1. This book has come highly recommended to me several times - I really should listen to all of you, and read it!

  2. The first paragraph of number 2 is very relevant to me at the moment, thank you for posting this.