Saturday, 10 March 2018

CALM


As a mental health practitioner  suicide touches my life more than the average person.  But it's been on my mind  more of late.  That's why I'm talking about it here and  my social media posts on my dementia sites focus on it today. 

Last week  Simon,  a son of friends,  took his own life at an age just beyond childhood.  I last met him at Chagstock where he was volunteering.  He usually camped with his mum, brother and sisters but this time he was there alone.  I remember him wearing a great big top hat.  He went out of his way to come and have a chat. 

Did you know suicide is the biggest killer of men under the age of 45?  I didn't but it makes sense that it would be so.   Food for thought for our policy makers who decide how public money is spent.  Another reminder is the beautiful old tree on the green just along the street.  There, George,  a twenty year old local boy hanged himself last year.  His friends held vigils there after his death and still leave flowers. 

Simon's family are requesting that donations are made to CALM, Campaign Against Living Miserably,  a charity that aims to prevent male suicide.  My tiny piece of activism today is sharing this link to raise awareness of the valuable work that they do.  There's valuable information here about getting help for yourself or someone you're worried about. 

8 comments:

  1. With suicide on both sides of our family and all being male I have always been uber vigilant in making sure that I keep an open door for my son at all times and to make it crystal clear that nothing is off limits when it comes to talking for this very reason and fear. My husband's nephew took his life aged 34 leaving 2 young children behind a few years ago. He was a lovely man but had never been able to come to terms with the death of his sister in a car crash 12 years before. Arilx

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    1. Yes I make it clear that Lou can talk about anything. It's paid dividends so far. xx

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  2. Unfortunately there is no pill for deep built in sadness and feelings of being an outsider, yes, I am talking about myself. I feel that we shouldn't discriminate between sexes as to who commits suicide, the statistics are overwhelmingly awful anyway. I would like to thank you for all the times you have written about mental health, I read you every day but am not very good at expressing myself so don't comment.

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    1. Thanks for sharing Hillybean. Of course it's an issue for both sexes. It's just that the suicides of young men are particularly on my mind at the current time. It makes it more poignant because my only child is a son. Also there may no pill but deep interminable sadness can pass. I know this. xx

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  3. It is so desperately awful when a young person takes their life, just tragic. I remember a young school friend taking her life at 16, heartbreaking. A young woman, very troubled who I once taught, recently killed herself, each time I felt helpless and useless. I have empathy, I wish I had answers.

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    1. It's heartbreaking at any age both in terms of the pain of the person who takes their life (or makes an attempt to do so) and those close to them. Dealing with suicide and suicide attempts in the older population has made me very aware of this. xx

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  4. When things overwhelm some people they may use drugs-legal or illegal or alcohol to help ease the pain but then do something they wouldn't in their rational mind x

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    1. From my experience I don't think alcohol or drugs are always involved. Sometimes the mind seems to go into meltdown on its own. xx

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