I am dating again - very gently even though I'm probably content than I've ever been. After all I've got a lot going for me these days, a group of friends that are more lovely than you could imagine, a pretty idyllic rewarding life and a calm, happy inner self. Perhaps it was that sign from the sea, that single red rose floating towards me on the water. that egged me on. More likely it's that my gay entourage whose hearts are in the right places want to set me up on a blind date with a posh, rich, sixty something. Okay his major plus point is that his house has a wonderful sea view but I can't muster up the energy to be that shallow.
I thought I might be able to do better myself so snuck back online. For a month to begin with. After that I'll see. There are outrageous stories again to tell already. A bloke messaged me out of the blue from nowhere. 'I know it's a long shot but are you free to go on holiday with me on 20th August? All expenses paid.' Needless to say I ignored his kind offer. Either he was extremely naive or incredibly predatory. I suspect the latter. And it could have been that a trip to Magaluf was on offer. But there's been positive experiences too. For example, I spent an enjoyable evening last week on Exeter Quay with a very lovely guy who was interesting, funny and had beautiful eyes. We decided though that although we'd be very good friends in a different life it was a non starter. So back on the horse. I was chatting last night again to someone else. Again he seemed a nice guy but something didn't feel quite right so I baled gracefully.
What online dating is doing is helping me to clarify the type of person that I would like to meet quite precisely. Not in a fussy way. I'm not that bothered about eye colour or how many degrees that they've got. I'm asking quite challenging questions and attending to my gut response. If it doesn't feel right and there's alarm bells it's not okay to progress. After all my life is too precious to allow someone in who might upset the equilibrium. haven't decided whether I'll continue in my quest after the paid period is up if I haven't met anyone. But it's a useful process nonetheless.