Friday, 3 August 2018

Gently Does It

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I am dating again - very gently even though I'm probably content  than I've ever been.  After all I've got a lot going for me these days,   a group of friends that are more lovely than you could imagine, a pretty idyllic rewarding life and a calm, happy inner self.    Perhaps it was that sign from the sea, that single red rose floating towards me on the water. that egged me on.  More likely it's that my gay entourage whose hearts are in the right places want to set me up on a blind date with a posh, rich, sixty something.  Okay his major plus point is that his house has a wonderful sea view but I can't muster up the energy to be that shallow.

I thought I might be able to do better myself so snuck back online.  For a month to begin with.  After that I'll see.   There are outrageous stories again to tell already.  A bloke messaged me out of the blue from nowhere.   'I  know it's a long shot but are you free to go on holiday with me on 20th August?  All expenses paid.'  Needless to say I ignored his kind offer.  Either he was extremely naive or incredibly predatory.  I suspect the latter.  And it could have been that a trip to Magaluf was on offer.  But there's been positive experiences too.  For example,  I spent an enjoyable evening last week on Exeter Quay with a very lovely guy who was interesting, funny and had beautiful eyes.  We decided though that although we'd be very good friends in a different life it was a non starter.  So back on the horse.   I was chatting last night again to someone else.  Again he seemed a nice guy but something didn't feel quite right so I baled gracefully.

 What online dating is doing is helping me to clarify the type of person that I would like to meet quite precisely.  Not in a fussy way.  I'm not that bothered about eye colour or how many degrees that they've got.  I'm asking quite challenging questions and attending to my gut response. If it doesn't feel right and there's alarm bells it's not okay to progress.  After all my life is too precious to allow someone in who might upset the equilibrium.    haven't decided whether I'll continue in my quest after the paid period is up if I haven't met anyone.  But it's a useful process nonetheless. 

12 comments:

  1. I did quote Robert Burns to you when you found the rose-just saying! And now you’re back in the water, avoiding the sharks and jellyfish, here’s a bit of Browning, “How do I love thee, let me count the ways”. Sounds to me like you’re doing just fine-happy in your own skin, and well able to follow your gut instinct when you meet someone new. Enjoy New York-hope Louis is scrubbed and ready when you collect him.,

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    1. Thanks for the poetry again. Very thoughtful. The rose dried nicely and I keep it next to my bed. See my update re: the flight on the post today. Louis better have showered! xx

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    1. Keep everything crossed for me mate! xxx

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  3. My eldest son, newly divorced,( not his choice) has been online dating, for the last few months but with no luck. He has had several second dates, but that's about it. He doesn't really tell me much. but I just wish he could find a lovely lady for company and maybe love! Someone less scary than the ex wife I told him! Why didn't you tell me that before I married her he said ! I suppose I didn't know at that point...she seemed OK !

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    1. Exes are puzzlement beasts. People often wonder why they chose them but often they have forgotten positives. Hope your son finds someone lovely when the time is right. xx

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  4. Years ago I only cared about looks -I don't think that would be a priority now.Friendship would be more important.My looks are very faded so I'm sure a mans would too.Wishing you a fun time browsing x

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    1. Yes I'm having a fun time. Still have to like the look of someone even if there's a few lines and some lumps and bumps. Don't mind a bit of a belly. It makes me look like Twiggy! xx

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  5. Sounds exciting!Good luck and keep us posted.

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    1. I may do. Sometimes I've been very selective in what I've posted in the past. It's very likely that I will be again. My blog doesn't disclose all aspects of my life. Will share the funny bits though as long as they're not hurtful to anyone else. xx

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