Thursday, 30 August 2018

Into The Sunset


“It is always important to know when something has reached its end. Closing circles, shutting doors, finishing chapters, it doesn't matter what we call it; what matters is to leave in the past those moments in life that are over.” 
 Paulo Coelho

I will start by telling you a bit about yesterday.  It was my usual midweek day off.  I got up a bit later than the norm, relishing the fact that's a school holiday and I don't have the early morning drive to get Louis to the bus at Totnes.  I pottered around the house, tidying as I went, put the washing on and made and received a few phone calls.  Around lunchtime I went to pick crab apples in the park as I plan to infuse them in whiskey.  There I got talking to a lovely woman who'd just moved here and accepted her invitation of a cup of tea.  We watched a pod of dolphins from her balcony, discovered that we had similar interests and swapped details.  The start of a new friendship perhaps?   More pottering, a cup of tea with Mr Metrosexual, a swim in a sea that was choppier than usual with the seal looking on.  Then another few phone calls and some chilling time in a beautifully quiet home.

All day I thought about writing a post  but, try as hard as I might I couldn't come up with a topic.  The wasted effort niggled.   And so a fledgling idea grew and grew until it reached a crescendo in the afternoon as I walked up the steps from the cove, soggy from my dip.  I'd already decided that I'd stop my blog  at the three thousandth post.  It feels right to end it earlier than that, thirty short of my intended target.

I started blogging over eight years ago to instill the discipline of writing regularly.   It's certainly helped me achieve that.   I've written about all sorts and the content and my  style has evolved over time.   The quality of what I've come up with has been variable in line with my beloved Mr Cohen's advice to forget perfect offerings.  I've shared random silliness alongside pretty personal stuff.  The latter was done with the belief that being transparent about pain and challenges isn't a demonstration of weakness but can teach and touch others.

I've changed over the years too.   I don't think my 2010 self, or maybe even my 2016 one, would recognise the person that I've become.   'When were you at your happiest?' Red Mel asked me in the van this weekend, mimicking a question in a Guardian interview she was reading.  I did not hesitate with my reply.  'Now!' I said.  It's interesting that many of life's outward challenges remain in place and it's my inner perspective that has changed.  I wonder whether the writing has been instrument in this shift.

At this time when I feel more creative, positive and fulfilled than ever I see the lack of inspiration as a sign.   Other things are blowing into my life.  I want to make time for the new including exploring different ways of writing to express my creativity.   And so with a little sadness I am bringing the Lovelygrey chapter of my life to a close.  Thank you all so much for your kindness and support.    There will be a final post about my new 'literary' venture when it has been conceived.

With much love

Julie aka Lovelygrey

PS:  Perhaps  'Nutscaping for Girls' was my finest blogging moment. It was the post that I most enjoyed writing!

30 comments:

  1. That is sad - I will miss your posts. ALl the very best with the new things. Have a wonderful time.
    xx

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  2. Oh my word Julie, I'm really going to miss your unique perspective on things...although I hope that your 'new literary venture' means that you'll be starting a new blog. Enjoy your new creative life, and please give my regards to Louis.

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  3. I will miss you!!.Although I dont always comment,I have so enjoyed reading about your adventures.Good Luck and Best Wishes to you and your boy,xx

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  4. I respect your choice but I will miss your regular posts and your individual take on life. At my age 76 I find there are too many people leaving in one way or another. Good luck to you and Louis and all your friends that you have introduced to us.

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  5. Oh my! I wasn't expecting that and have a bit of a lump in my throat. I don't comment often but always read and have always felt the connection of our beloved Leonard Cohen which caught me when I found you for the first time. I wish you luck and happiness in all that you do in the future and love to Louis too. X

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  6. I'm sad to see you go as I enjoy reading about your adventures. I too have stopped writing. You just know when when it's time. Wishing you and Louis and all the friends, old and new,all the very best
    Carolx

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  7. Yes, I too have a " tear in my eye" I shall miss your daily posts and coming to Brittany with you . But, you must do what is best for you. So pleased to hear that you are in a very good place. Good luck with your literary venture, and love to you and Louis. XX

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  8. Sad to hear that you are stopping the blog but pleased that it has served your initial purpose. I do hope you can update at some point with your new adventures, wishing you and Louis the best of luck xx

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  9. "Closing Time" . Sending you and Louis my very best wishes for a happy future. I shall miss your varied musings.

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  10. Sorry to hear that you're going as I have enjoyed your daily postings. My best wishes to both you and Louis and trust that you have many more travelling adventures.

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  11. Your blog is great. I read a lot of interesting things from it. Thank you very much for sharing. Hope you will update more news in the future.
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  12. So sorry to hear this, though I don't comment often I always look forward to your blog.

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  13. Thanks for all those enjoyable reads; it has been a privilege to enjoy a small window into your daily journey. Love to you and Louis - and nutscaping was indeed epic!

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  14. Sending you much love and thanks. Hope you succeed in your business and your life. You have my email if you want to sty in touch. Hugs to you and your handsome young man. Carpe diem! Xx

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  15. Oh no! Feel really sad, your writing has touched me deeply. All the best xx

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  16. I'm so grateful for your blog because it meant I've been able to make a real life friend. Sorry to hear that you've finished, but it sounds like you have made the best decision for youx
    Arilx

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  17. Good luck to you and Louis. It was a real pleasure to meet you in person. Xx

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  18. That is sad but great that you are happy and looking forward to new ventures.Good luck.

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  19. I will miss your blog Julie - I have enjoyed reading it first thing in the morning for years.
    It’s in part thanks to you writing about your mental health struggles that I plucked up the courage to go to my GP and start taking antidepressants - so a big thank you from me.

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  20. Having been away and out and about for the summer months my blogging has virtually come to a standstill. It maybe another chapter in life that is calling me just as it has called you. Maybe, maybe not but I wish you well and thank you for opening yourself to the world. I have enjoyed all your posts. The best of luck and good wishes for the future.
    xx

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  21. A girls gotta do what a girls gotta do. Best wishes for your future health and happiness. xx

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  22. Buggrit, millennium hand and shrimp! I shall miss you but will be happy knowing that you are doing what you want to do. My good wishes go with you, may you reach your sunset without mishaps. xx

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  23. I'll miss reading your updates, but I applaud you for knowing that it's the right time to call it a day. Hope you have many more adventures to enjoy.

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  24. I have never commented before as I am a very shy person who has no experience of social media but I just neede to tell you that I will miss you so much as yours was the blog that I read first thing every morning. You have been a true joy and inspiration in every post. Thank you so much. Wishing you and Louis all the best for the future and keep on being your
    legendary self!

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  25. We will miss you. Wishing you and Louis every happiness in the future.

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  26. I will miss you. Have an enjoyable time in whatever endeavour you try. Best of luck to you and Louis.
    Myra, from Winnipeg, Canada

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  27. I shall miss your posts, good luck as you venture forth.
    x

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  28. We are so sorry that you are closing your blog. We have learnt so much from you over the years. We both have a set of the "worry people" under our pillows. Also have most of the books by Eckhart Toller which provide so much help and inspiration. We knew nothing of these before reading about them on your blog. Will also miss your adventures and seeing pics of you and your handsome Son.
    Good luck and good health to you both.
    Wendy (Wales)

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  29. You and Louis are real-life literary characters for me, as well as genuine people. Hope for an update someday!

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  30. Only just seen this, I have been away. My blog reading has been neglected. Time to move on, Julie, that's what life is about. I wish you well in your new interests. Nice to meet you at the camp site. ilona xxx

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